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Every Day You Are a new Person.

Every morning you wake up you are a new person. You’ve just finished a lifetime of conversations, interactions, observations, and experiences.

  • Let all of those things instruct you.
  • Learn from them. 
  • You can take a different course today.
  • You can react to adversity in a new and more informed way.
  • You can be more gracious in responding to others.
  • You can recognize fears inside of you and set them aside so your decisions are not based on fear.
  • You can see setbacks as giving you direction toward your divine path rather than seeing them as examples of your failure.

Remember, if you are alive, your story is still being written. Today starts a new page. You get to write on it. Find your voice. Take steps toward healing and wholeness.  Look for ways to use your strengths.  The Creator of Life is ready to walk with you. 

Leadership: A Short List of Things I was Reminded of this Week.

  1. If you are a leader, manager, or administrator, make sure you communicate the what, when, where, and why of any changes, big or small, you are making in the organization. Do it as far in advance as you can. Do it  no matter whether its your whole team or just a few people that will be affected by the change.
  2. Take time to thank God for people who are committed to the mission of your organization and who take pride in a job well done. They are your organization.
  3. Employees from the traditionalist generation are a blessing. Their wisdom is priceless.
  4. Make every effort to get the sleep and rest you need. You’re a better decision maker when you are fully rested (in mind and body).
  5. Pray like it all depends on God and prepare like it all depends on you.
  6. When you’re struggling to get something done, ask for help. 

The Battle of Leading.

Keep Striving

I use the phrase “battle of leading” because for me leadership often feels like battling. It involves struggle, it involves confrontation, it involves striving, it involves contending and campaigning. It involves having difficult conversations with an employee who is off track when it would be easier to just let them be. It involves leading a team through major procedural changes rather than letting someone else take the heat. It involves listening and trying to learn from staff who are unhappy with how things are going rather than avoiding.

I am intrigued by other leaders who  also describe their journey in leadership the same way. Abraham Lincoln, Winston Churchill, and Martin Luther King Jr. come to mind. I can’t really compare what I do to the kinds of issues those leaders faced, however I relate to  the mental focus and self discipline they had to use in order to accomplish their great missions.

Leading is full of hard things. For instance this week I am thinking about several issues that lie in the path of my agency. How do we make a high cost department that the community relies become fiscally efficient? How can we recruit employees who will align with our culture and mission? Given major changes in third party reimbursement, what kind of organizational structure and business model will be most effective in two years? The answers to such questions are dynamic. In other words I have to keep answering these questions because what works today will not be what works in 12 or 24 months.

Leading is hard, but it is worth it. Some people cut corners or try to coast. I do not know how a leader could be successful by doing that. To move your organization forward you have to be in the fight. You have to be striving along side the rest of your team. If you don’t strive with them they eventually will not respect you. 

Leaders,
Focus on your agency’s mission, serve your team, encourage others, celebrate every success no matter how small, and take one day at a time. The Creator will give you the strength you need for each day and when you look back you’ll be amazed at how far you’ve come. 

The Glue of Life…and Work.

Trust

Stephen Covey writes “Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” (First Things First, 1994, p. 203)

I don’t see any way around it. When you are leading an organization, you have to trust people. No matter how talented you are, you do not have the specific knowledge required to do all of the tasks that make your business go round. You must trust others to get things done. I am being reminded of this daily, especially lately. The agency I work for launched two new major systems in the last few months. One is an electronic payroll system and the other is an electronic medical record. Though I was part of the selection and initial implementation, the day to day operation, programming, and ongoing development of the systems is being done by a small team of amazing staff. They have a knack and an aptitude for it.  I am also completely relying on them. Our agency is blessed because they are trustworthy, ethical, dedicated and diligent.

What I find interesting is the trust required on my part. I ask questions every day, lots of questions. But in the end, I have to trust them to do the work. I trust them to figure things out and get things done. I trust their integrity, their work ethic, and creativity. They in turn, are empowered by  my trust in them. My trust acknowledges their capability and expertise. 

According to Erik Erickson trust is the first and most basic stage of development (Identity and the Life Cycle, 1959, p. 57).  Erickson writes that without the ability to trust a person cannot develop healthy personality. After 20 years in organizational leadership I would say the same is true of business. A business cannot be healthy unless there is trust at all levels of leadership and staff. Without the giving and receiving of trust an organization is just a collection of people all competing as individuals to accomplish their own agenda. With trust that collection of individuals can become a team moving in the same direction to accomplish a shared mission for the good of each other and the community.

Covey has it right. Trust is essential for holding relationships together and allowing people to move in the same direction.  It is the glue that facilitates shared agendas and shared goals. As an agency director I strive to trust and be trust worthy. It may be my most important job. 

Myths of Your Leadership Identity

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Henri Nouwen, a Catholic Priest and insightful contemplative author talks about the Five Lies of Identity: 1) I am what I have. 2) I am what I do. 3) I am what other people say or think of me. 4) I am nothing more than my worst moment. 5) I am nothing less than my best moment.

I have to confess. As an organizational leader I have struggled with each one of the lies listed by Nouwen. I compare myself or the agency I work for to others and come up short.  I take my professional self too seriously and forget who I really am. I often focus too much on making sure people like me. I often give too much credibility to my failures and not enough credit to the gifts and talents God has given me.

There is a lot of pressure in being a leader. But greater than the pressure is the gift of being able to support, encourage, and serve others through that role. The truth about myself as a leader is that in my job I  have ups and downs, wins and losses, good days and bad days.  The value I have is given to me by my the Creator. It is not found in my position at work or most recent success.  My job is to be a faithful steward for the agency and people I serve. It is to  speak the truth in love, to help others be their best ,  and guide the organization I lead through the many challenges and toward the many opportunities it has in order to accomplish its mission. What a privilege.

Every Day, For Your Staff…

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If you supervise people they want to know that you care about them. They want to know you notice their hard work. They want to know you understand their daily on-the-job experience. Even the most loyal employees can become ambivalent about their job if they sense their direct supervisor doesn’t care. I have seen first hand what happens when great employees feel neglected and ignored. Over time they start to look for another work environment where they’ll be appreciated. One way to help your team feel cared for is by consistently and frequently communicating how much they mean to you. There are many facets to a great work culture and a supervisor who actively demonstrates they care about their team is one of them. Here is a short list of simple daily actions I’ve learned can communicate to your team that you appreciate them:

*Brag about your staff publicly and often.
*Exclaim to others everything your team does right.
*Talk to others about every-time your team goes above their call of duty,
*Tell each staff member how much you appreciate them.
*State specifically what the team members are doing that is making a positive difference.
*Make sure they know you notice their good work and extra effort.
*Smile, look them in the eye and say “hi” every time you cross paths.
*Call then by name and remember the names of their family members.
*Leave no doubt that they matter to you.

You may not feel like doing these things every day, but do them anyway. It will make your team members feel important to you and will help create a culture of appreciation.

Lessons on Leading from Watching The Crown

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My wife and I have now watched the first two seasons of Netflix’ The Crown. It is an intriguing drama about life inside British royalty in the 40’s and 50’s. As I watched, I became aware of several takeaways for leaders.
1) With focus and determination you can become a good leader. Queen Elizabeth begins her role as queen unsuspectingly when her father dies. She is a young 25 year old women. She purposefully and determinedly commits herself to learning how to lead. She gets a university tutor to help her grow in general knowledge in order to keep up in conversations with more educated leaders. She allows Winston Churchill to mentor her in how to carry herself and how to think about her role. She learns how to represent the Monarchy, represent the British Empire, and represent the Church of England by focusing on her role rather than on her own interests. Good leadership and learning go hand in hand. Queen Elizabeth demonstrates that the place you start as a leader does not have to be where you finish, however, to move forward you must put in the time and effort to improve.
2) Sometimes you need to do a 180 degree turn. This lesson is taught by Winston Churchill in the episode “Act of God.” A heavy smog caused by industrial soot coats London for several days and leads to the death of thousands of Londoners. Winston Churchill is initially rather cavalier about how the government should approach the crisis. He is awakened to the gravity of the crisis when he visits a hospital and is moved by the devastation the thick smog is having on the citizens. He quickly pivots his position on the government’s responsibility to take action. Showing compassion, he quickly directs the government to give aid. The change cast him once again as a great and caring leader for the people of the British Empire. This situation reminds me of the saying, “It’s never too late to make the right decision.” You may be pretty far down the wrong road. If so, do a “180.” The people counting on you to do what’s best will thank you.
3) Quite frankly, sometimes, you can’t keep your promises. This is true, usually when you have made a promise out of ignorance, and then realize your promised action is inadvisable. This happened to Queen Elizabeth when she promises to allow her sister Margaret to marry a divorcee. In the end, Elizabeth has to tell her sister that she cannot support the marriage. This is not the only time Elizabeth, in her younger years, makes a promise she can’t keep. Another time, she promises one of her close employees a major promotion. She has to renege on this as she learns more about proper protocol with royal job succession.
Promises are important, and a leader should strive at all times to keep a promise. The lesson here is that as a leader, try get all the facts and consult all the experts before you make a promise. Even then, new information and circumstances may change your ability to keep it.
4) Lack of self awareness leads to disaster. Prime Minster Eden, driven by insecurities, orchestrates the Suez Canal invasion. It precipitates a military and economic disaster for the British Empire. Later, Queen Elizabeth confronts him about initiating this ill fated war. She challenges him for having done so out of feeling insecure and inadequate in the shadow of Winston Churchill. If Eden had been willing to confront his own dark side, he could have avoided that disastrous chapter in Great Britain history. Self awareness is an essential practice for individual leadership development. It is important to continuously work at understanding yourself and being comfortable in your own skin.
5) Pick your friends carefully. Prince Phillip’s friend and private secretary, Michael Parker, turns out to be be not such a good friend. Parker is forced to resign as secretary because of a marital affair. His influence over Prince Phillip and his behavior while with the Prince creates controversy and leads to conflict between the the Prince and Queen Elizabeth. If the Prince had been more careful about the company he kept, he could have saved himself and his family a great deal of embarrassment. It is important to be intentional about who you are spending your time with. Are they people who reflect the kind of person you want to be? Develop a circle of friends who are characterized by supporting each other and motivating each other to love and good deeds.

In my journey as the executive director of a community mental health agency I have learned and relearned the lessons above. Leading is not easy. There are many problems and few easy solutions. Leadership development is a never ending process. It requires ongoing learning and adaptation. The five lessons we see from the characters in The Crown come through their inadequacies and failures. These types of experiences can either be the end of a leader or tools to help grow the leader. The characters in The Crown certainly help us see that.

To Delegate or not Delegate.

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I heard someone this week talk about the difference between responsibilities and tasks as they relate to organizational leadership. Their point was that leaders should delegate tasks and focus their attention on responsibilities. The speaker said delegating a task can empower and create a greater sense of organizational investment within the one it is delegated to. In general I agree with this idea, however I also believe that a leader must always be ready to take on any task in the organization that they are capable of doing. In the agency I am director of, I do not like to ask anyone to do anything I am not willing to do myself. This includes running the vacuum, cleaning toilets, and typing up meeting minutes. For me, I guess, it is both an expression of humility and also sending a message to my co-workers that though I am “the boss”, we are equals.
Delegation feels right to me when I have the sense that by delegating I am either, 1) handing a task off to someone who can do it better and more quickly than me, 2) recognizing another’s expertise and honoring that competence by giving them the task, or 3) creating an efficiency in the agency by allowing me to focus on something only someone in my role can do while handing off a task that can be done by another.
I have seen leaders who appear to delegate because they do not want to  work hard or “get their hands dirty.” They give delegation a bad name. Delegation, when done right and for the right reasons actually strengthens an organization. It spreads information and “know-how” across more individuals. It can create more experts. As leaders we need to be checking our motives so that when we delegate or hand  a task off to someone else we are doing it for the right reason…to someone with the right  skill set for the job, to create an efficiency, or strengthen the organization.

Take My Fears

Jehovah, take my fears and replace them with your ancient truth. Take my fears and replace them with your ancient plan. Take my fears and help me replace them with abiding in the ancient mission and purpose you have given me.

When my eyes get fixed on what seems urgent, on what seems pressing, on what must be done;  let me remember you are present,  you are working.

You are the beginning and the end. This is your universe. All time is really yours.

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This year begin to undo the lies about yourself and be who you are created to be.

Life and our culture have a way of making alignment to our created purpose confusing. In life we are, as one ancient author described it, “harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.”* From birth we are assaulted by lies about who we are.  Sometimes it is our family, sometimes it is our classmates, sometimes our neighbors, or sometimes our co-workers. For sure it is also the constant throbbing message from the culture telling us we are not enough. These lies can settle  deep into our psyche. They may be telling us we need to be skinnier, that we can’t compete intellectually, that  we aren’t good enough to do what we enjoy, or that are our very core there is something wrong in us that makes us irreversibly defective. When these lies take root it makes believing the truth about who the Creator made us to be seem ridiculous. Embracing the lies leads us to a life of frustration, fear and anxiety.

Unwinding the lies and embracing the truth is within our grasp. It takes persistence, diligence,  and daily perseverance. It also takes doing something different. The lies are embedded in us because we have meditated on them. We have reinforced them. To change we have to begin the deconstruction process. Start by making a commitment to everyday doing what it takes to discover, uproot, and replace the lies.

  1. Take the time to review. Think about the destructive messages you’ve received over the course of your life. Some of the messages have been overt and some covert. As you identify them write them down. Write down who sent the message, be it a person, an institution, or an environment. Ask yourself why you are allowing that person or entity to declare truth about you?
  2. Allow yourself to believe that you were brought into existence by the grand Creator and that this Creator has a truth about you to discover.
  3. Begin to change your input. The lies are sown and grown by input. If you want to uproot and replace the lies with the truth you must change the input. The Creator has given you the power to choose new input. Read or listen to good books. I encourage reading the classics. You can use the internet for a list, or ask a literature teacher.
    **Here I will make personal suggestion. Start with reading the books of                                   the Psalms, Proverbs and New Testament  for 10  minutes every day.                                   Even if you are not in the Christian religion you will benefit from the                                     message.
  4. Begin to Journal. Write out your thoughts, feelings, stories, memories…whatever comes out. When you think of  lies, write out challenges to them. Write  what you are learning about yourself. Write out prayers. Write out poems. Use the journal to pour out your heart. List the things you do well. List out your victories, even the smallest ones.
  5. Begin to use your gifts. If its painting, then paint, if its building things then start, if its encouraging others then do it with gusto. Consider one of my favorite quotes,                      “If you have a talent, use it in every which way possible. Don’t hoard it. Don’t                    dole it out like a miser. Spend it lavishly like a millionaire intent on going                          broke.” Brendan Francis.

As you being to practice these things regularly you will get new ideas about who you are. Let them settle in. Push back against the lies as they rear their dishonest heads. Embrace the new truths the Creator is teaching you about who you really are. Look for new opportunities to push into. New friendships, new social circles, new hobbies, new work. Give yourself the permission to try even if one of the new things you do does not work out.

The truth of life is that you have a purpose. You were given talents, abilities, interests and passions because your Creator wants you to have them. He wants you to use them. Make a commitment to move toward undoing anything that is casting a shadow over your glorious potential and move in the direction of alignment with your God given mission.

 

 

 

 

 

*Matthew 9:36 NIV