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Leaders, what is it really like to work for you? 25 questions to help you think it through.

What am I like to work with?

  1. Do people see me going the extra mile to help them succeed?
  2. Do I know my coworkers well enough to ask about their family?
  3. Do I smile when I meet others in the hall?
  4. Do I make it a regular practice to ask others how I can help?
  5. Am I careful about how I talk about my team members in meetings?
  6. Am I generous with encouragement?
  7. Do I notice what people are good at and tell them?
  8. Is my office so messy it makes people not want to stay?
  9. Do I make it easy for co-workers to come to me with a question?
  10. Do I model the kind of work I expect out of others?
  11. Do I celebrate our successes?
  12. Do I tell others the positive contribution they are making to our agency?
  13. Do my coworkers perceive me as part of their team?
  14. Do I give others a chance to grow?
  15. Do I model self-care?
  16. Am I fun to work with?
  17. Do people leave my office feeling heard?
  18. Do I clearly explain why I am doing what I am doing?
  19. Am I part of the solution or am I the problem?
  20. How do I encourage creativity and growth in my team and the organization?
  21. Do my coworkers dread talking to me?
  22. Do the people I work with believe I have their best interest in mind?
  23. Do I have the reputation of keeping people’s confidence?
  24. Am I quick to offer “thank you’s”  and praise.
  25. Are people glad I am the organizational leader? 

Dear Discontent Employee,

Photo by Francois Hoang

As much as anything else, work is about learning.  It is learning about what we are good at and what we enjoy. It is about striving to get better. Conversely, the learning we receive from a job can also involve finding what we do not like to do. We may discover we don’t care for the work, the clientele, the company, or the entire industry.  Finding out we do not like a certain job is important information and can teach us a lot about ourselves. Being unhappy at one job may propel us down a new path we love that we might not have otherwise considered. 

So what if you’ve found yourself unhappy in your job? Do not allow the discontent to overcome you. Rather, I suggest you consider one of the following two options. First, if you are not happy in your job but feel that the type of work is something you want to do and before you get so frustrated you become angry, go to your manager and have a heart-to-heart discussion. Tell them what you like about the work and what you struggle with. Ask your manager for suggestions about what you [the employee] could do differently. Tell them what you think they [the manager or company] could do differently. If you are working for a company that believes in employee development and you’ve demonstrated a willingness to work hard, then it is likely your manager will do what they can to help you. It is much better for a company to help an existing employee be successful than to start all over with a new hire.  In addition to speaking with your manager also figure out which of your co-workers are really successful and enjoy their jobs. Have a conversation with them. Find out how they do their work tasks, how they organize their day, how they handle the difficulties of the job, what they do for self-care, and what keeps them motivated. Learning from a successful co-worker may be just the thing you need to turn things around and excel. If however, you are convinced you are ready to give up on your current job and don’t want to give it a second thought, then I suggest you consider option number two.

The second option is this…leave gracefully. By this I mean do the following. First read the company policy on terminations. It will inform you of the organization’s expectations for you to leave on good terms. Follow the policy. Second, before resigning look for another job. Conventional wisdom says, “It is easier to find a job while you have a job.” Third, while looking for your new or transition job do not slack at the job you are leaving. Work hard and well. Fourth, once you have secured another job then give the company you are leaving the amount of notice of your departure they ask for in the policy. Leave on good terms. Don’t intentionally burn a bridge. The employer you are leaving may well be called on to give you a formal or more likely informal reference. We all need as many good references as we can get. 

Being unhappy at work happens to everyone at some point. For some it is a temporary mood or only a brief season. After all, even if we love our jobs, there are tasks involved with the job we do not like. If, however, you have a pervasive discontent with your job, reach out for help. If that does not work, don’t be afraid to plan your transition.  Just do it gracefully.