Yesterday I had the incredible blessing of getting together with four of my closest childhood friends. It was a  hastily put together reunion because one of the group lives outside of the U.S. and was in visiting. We all drove in to one of our group’s new house out in the countryside. We were only together for a few short hours but what a special time. I came away feeling so uplifted. We shared great stories. We consoled each other. We made fun of each other. We encouraged each other.

I realized I had a bond with these tremendous people that maybe others do not always experience. As my wife and I were driving home I talked about  the overwhelming sense of being blessed that I experienced. I began to reflect on  the role friendship has in our lives. Friendship is a one of the most important healing forces God has given us.

Why would I say that? Here are five reasons.

We laughed together: Whether we were remembering the antics of our junior high basketball coach, flunking chemistry, or the times shared in high school marching band, we laughed the kind of laughs that make you cry and that wash out your insides.

We were genuine with each other: My friends have seen me at my best and my worst. They’ve seen  my ups and downs, success and failures. I do not have to pretend.

We validated each other: No matter who was talking, we took the time to listen and accept what was said. It is not because we all agree about everything but we give each other the right to have an opinion. We accept each other’s lived experience.

We sought to restore each other: We believe the best about each other and we spoke words of encouragement to each other.

We shared God’s blessings with one another: As we were leaving, I commented for the umpteenth time how much I loved my friend’s  new place, especially the spacious backyard. He made sure I knew I was welcome back any time.

So there it is. Five things about my life long set of friends that added some healing to my life this weekend. They are a gift. I pray that God gives you the same blessing…a few good friends.